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  1. amyfoxwell said,

    October 3, 2009 at 12:18 pm

    Check out this site while planning your next family holiday. Virginie has done an amazing job putting together this resource for travelling with children.

    http://avec-mes-enfants.fr

  2. Sandra said,

    September 30, 2009 at 1:24 pm

    Hi, I am having problems with CAF and wondered if anyone had a copy of the Cessation letter from Child Benefit in Newcastle that they could send me, please?

    Thank you to anyone that can help!

    Sandra

  3. amyfoxwell said,

    June 18, 2009 at 8:06 am

    Have a look at this children’s designer. Really cute clothes, and they give 20% of sales to charity:

    http://www.babyeggi.com

  4. amyfoxwell said,

    June 3, 2009 at 6:34 pm

    Caesarian sections in France

    As summer arrives and a whole host of new babies is set to arrive I’ve been hearing a lot of discussion about c-sections in France. There seems to be a lot of conjecture and questions floating around out there, so, for what it is worth, I’d like to put my two cents in, in the hope that it will help somepne out.

    Firstly let me make qualify this by saying that as with any birth, a part of the experience is dependent on the hospital and it’s staff. Therefore it is really worth your while to research where you are going to have the baby and make sure that it resonates with your birth philosophy. Make sure that the rate of c-sections is within the World Health Organisation’s acceptable limit of 15%. Don’t hesitate to visit the hospital and talk with the staff in advance.

    I have had 2 Caesarians in France, one as an emergency operation at the end of a long labor, and one planned. These are the pieces of advice and information I would give you:

    – be prepared for the eventuality that you may have to have a C-section. Pay attention in your birthing classes to this information and don’t tell yourself that this wont happen to you, as it can and it’s best to be prepared.

    – for planned c-setions there is a worldwide policy of carrying out the operation at 2 weeks from your due date in order to avoid any emergency situations in case the baby comes early. That being said I managed to negotiate with my doctor to push the date out some as I was uncomfortable with taking the baby out early. However you should note that the US term is calculated on 40 weeks, while the European is calculated on 42 weeks. Which means that in the US the baby is taken out much earlier than what is considered term in Europe.

    – unlike in the US and many other European countries, the father-to-be cannot be in the room during the c-section, which was really difficult for me. That being said, they did give him the baby immediately so he could bond straight away with his child. This was actually a blessing and gave him a special moment while I was being tended to.

    – you will need to be very emphatic that you want to see the baby just as it arrives and insist that they show you him/her over the protection that has been set up. Make sure that you agree this with the doctor beforehand, even in the case of an emergency c-section you can explain your wishes while they are giving you the anesthesia

    – one of the hardest parts I found was not being able to welcome the baby and cuddle it immediately as it is too cold in the operationg bloc. Be prepared for this and make sure that the father is there to welcome the baby and ensure that he/she has immediate skin to skin contact.

    – take advantageof the great care you are given post partum – a 8 day minimum stay in hospital, visits with a psychologist, etc

    – be prepared for the aftermath. Having a c-section is a major operation and you will need quite some time to recuperate. The first few days and the first time you try to walk are very difficult, so talk to others to get their take on what they did to make that time that much easier. If you know you are going to have a caesarian, prepare things at home so life will be that much easier the first feew months (freeze some meals, make sure everything is on the ground floor to avoid stairs, organise to have help, etc)

    – allow yourself time to grieve if you are sad about having had a c-section. While we all know that the really important thing is that the child and you are safe and healthy, that doesn’t mean that you may not feel some disappointment and depression. Speak with your partner and try to explain exactly what it is that makes you sad,and ask that he just listen and understand rather than trying to find pat phrases to try and make things superficially better.

    All in all, while I wouldn’t choose to do a caesarian, I did feel very safe and looked after in the French Health System when living through my caesarians, which helped to put a positive side to an otherwise difficult fact for me.

    Please feel free to add your comments, thoughts, questions or experiences.

  5. Georgina said,

    June 1, 2009 at 2:35 pm

    Hi everyone!
    I am expecting our first baby in the next weeks and would love to get together with any other English speaking mums in the Aix area. Please get in touch!!

  6. amyfoxwell said,

    May 14, 2009 at 9:58 am

    I just bought a ‘LikeBike’ (one of those really cool pedaless bikes) at a great one line shop. The service was exemplary; they spent lots of time helping me pick the right model for my kids. Ordering it was quick and easy. I would definately buy from them again.

    Oh, and my kids LOVE the bike.

    http://www.cenetis.com/index.php?lang=english


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